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Every life is created by my experiences and stories.
Every decison and choice I made has brought me here
I trained as a Holistic Therapist 30 years ago and took my first level in Counselling training. This deepened my interest in psychology and the human experience.
When I was 22, I suffered an existential experience and a clinical depression that led me to feeling suicidal. Nobody noticed. I covered it all. I was completely terrified and alone.This later showed as a pattern that has shaped me, hiding the pain and maintaing the mask.
The next two years I sufferered with anxiety but I had a media job I loved, friends and a great relationship. I had a part time business with my therapies.
When a relationhsip ended, I found myself wanting to get away- another pattern of a flight response. I would literally get a flight away and chnage my environment in a bid to feel better. This happened many times.
I had many travelss and then had my daughter. At this time, I was working in a pressured corporate media role. I returned to work, but my values had changed.
Then a traumatic and sudden family death reminded me how short life really is.
I realised I needed my freedom and to find my purpose.
I wanted to leave the rat race and stop living at such high speed.
I wanted to be present for my daughter and do something that I loved doing.
I made the decison to leave and start my own business.
I had all the skills and experience I needed to run my own publishing business and, in 2012, I launched Community Life Magazine.
This fast became a success as I created one of the first (AR) augmented reality magazines.
I won the FSB Award for Innovation and I was awarded Bedfordshire BusinessWoman of the Year in 2014 and was invited to one of The Queen's infamous Royal Garden Parties.
I was later commissioned to produce a Special Edition Royal Charity magazine for the Lord Lieutenant of Bedfordshire as I continued expanding my publishing business.
In 2015, I merged with another local publication and we launched a new community magazine, also producing special edition publications and local guides.
I still held a passion for psychology, personal growth and helping others to develop and fulfil their potential so I decided it was time for change.
I trained as a Coach and NLP Practitioner and started to see everything in my life a new light.
Values work transformed my understanding of myself and I started to notice the deeper patterns and beliefs that had run through my life, shaping my decisions and choices.
I started to awaken to my own unique experiences and how they had shaped me and, with new awareness, I was able to begin to rewrite my stories.
This was the healing work that unlocked me and gave me the ultimate freedom.
The past isn't past.
It lives in everyday in your behaviours, reactions, emotions and beliefs. It dictates silently until it's addressed.
People ar often unaware of the connection between their past and present.
It may seem far away on your timeline as an experience or event that happened years ago, but nothing is the past when impacts you every day in the form of thoughts, feelings and behaviours. Past experiences have impact and shape identity and beliefs about ourselves, others and the world and these are carried forward within us in every day from that point. It doesn't matter how old you are or how young you were.
I looked at my current thinking system, my choices and my beliefs, I began to trace my steps, connect the dots.
I wanted a lot more in my business and my life, but I couldn't understand why it hadn't all materialised yet, why things had been tough and why I often procrastinated despite so mych action. I felt an inner conflict and never felt truly at rest or like I could relax or stop achieving.
I had a lot of resilience and succeeded through sheer determination, hard work and high functioning, but my emotional capacity was becoming really stretched the more I tried to do and achieve.
I took a new persepctive of responsibilty, If all the choices I made had brought me here, how did I make those choices? Based on what?
With this new level of awareness, I asked myself this key and life-changing question:
How did I get here?
How had my past impacted my present?
What had I experienced that had never been addressed?
What did I believe at my core about myself, others and the world?
Whose values had I been living by?
Who was I without all that story?
What had my past shaped and programmed me to be?
How was that helping or hindering my present?
Going back to go forward
Finding my voice
I started to realise that my childhood had a major impact on me and trauma which was unresolved had stayed with me affecting my choices, emotions and behaviours into adulthood.
But now I was an adult, I could choose my own empowerment, healing and transformation.
Coaching and NLP was the beginning of healing. The start of empowerment and taking back my choices and finding the truth of me and how I wanted to live, parent and experience life.
It was time to go deeper...
I had already overcome a lot that happened in my past. I had already built huge resilience skills in my life as a result of my childhood and I used my brain and cognitive skills to cope - which kept me very mych in my head.
NLP coaching helps to connect mind and body and transform the meanings we make and the beliefs we hold.
Exploring my inner world invited me to rewrite my story and heal my past,
Even though I had created success on surface levels by the standards of the world, I still neded to heal on the level of my unconscious to be able to accesss true freedom and inner peace within.
Empowering myself
I started to really apply these powerful new tools and I started to rewrite narratives from my stories, shift old beliefs and release limiting patterns.
How has your past shaped your present?
Is it time to take control of your life and future?
Everything you do is a reflection of your values and beliefs and how your inner world operates.
If you don't like how your career, relationships and interactions are, it's perhaps time to explore your own map of the world first, examine your beliefs, and address your emotions so that you can think and feel and behave differently - and make different choices.
Your BUSINESS will reflect who you are at your core and represent your beliefs and values as well as the parts of you that hold unconscious beliefs about who you are and what you can achieve. This can cause limits, self- sabotage and feeling stuck.
In your CAREER, you may want to show up more confidently and accelerate your role. You may find it hard to speak up and voice your opinion. Conflict and communication can be challenging, you may struggle to take feedback or any critisicm, be easily upset, react badly or make assumptions about others and what they think of you. You may not feel good enough or suffer with imposter syndrome.
In your RELATIONSHIPS, you may still be carrying the wounds and impacts of childhood and unconsciously repeating these patterns. You may have many fears and insecurities within them that make you unhappy.
As a Transformational Life Coach, Trauma Practitioner, Master NLP Practitioner and Credited NLP Trainer, I help you to identify your patterns, connect the dots and bring clarity, healing and growth to all areas of your life.
Reclaiming autonomy and choice gives you the chance to change your life: You are not your past or your behaviours and you can choose differently for your future.
Start with your Values and discover your true self
How I can help you.
I'm a Certified Life Coach, NLP Master Practitioner & NLP Trainer. Trained Trauma Practitioner, Silent Counsellor and qualified in mental health, ACES (Adverse childhood Experiences) counselling and Suicide Awareness and Self Harm prevention.
My holistic approach means I meet you where yu are first and understand before we work together, this is a bespoke healing and growth journey for you, not a series of fast 'fixes'.
I often meet people at some kind of crisis point in life be it health, work, divorce or relationship breakdown and where something has to give - or already has.
If that sounds like you, let's talk?
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